When I was pregnant with Chase, and in those early months following his birth, a lot of people gave us advice ("sleep when the baby sleeps," "accept any and all offers of help that come along," etc.). I ignored most of it, because I'm stubborn and figured that I knew best, and I learned the hard way that I should have listened. People offered us valuable pearls of wisdom and I shrugged them off and I am hoping it's different this time.
So. Moms of 2 (or 3), I need your advice. I have been told that going from 1 to 2 is just as hard and dramatic a transition as going from 0 to 1, and I am looking for your advice, suggestions, coping mechanisms for life in our house after Baby #2 arrives. I promise to listen this time. I am going into this next phase of our lives realizing that I am an idiot. Thank you.
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You are not an idiot. You will be just as good a mother of 2 as you are of 1 - and that's very good! I'm very proud of you!
Keeping the oldest child occupied and making them feel special will make your life easier! Tyson is always looking for attention, good or bad. His world was rocked when we brought the twins home. I know this sounds crazy becuase he is a boy, but we gave him his own "teddy" to baby while we fed and changed the twins, worked wonders!
Thanks, Mom! :)
And thanks, Brooke! I was wondering if getting Chase some kind of doll might help him with the transition -- good tip!
ahhh, I'm such a bad mom so I'm not even sure I can provide anything good here. Remember my phone call sobbing my eyes out, as I was driving with a very cholicky Colin, at two weeks old? Well, you may not remember the call, but I remember it quite well. You saved me from going insane (well, at that moment...), and calmed me down enough to focus and drive to the store to buy some swaddle things. Worked like magic.
So back to the tips for going to 2 kids... for me it was really keeping Kenslee involved. She loved to run and get the diapers, or wipes, or a burp cloth. The older ones love to help, even if it means patting the baby on the back for a burp. And then make sure to pass the baby off to everyone and anyone, so you can spend time with Chase, and do special things he loves. We always brought Colin into Kenslee's big girl room, and would lay him on the bed while we did her normal bedtime routine. This let her see that he's not going to ruin our way of life, and let him start to see what goes on in our crazy world.
You will do GREAT, I have no doubt! oh and one last tip - always have a bottle of wine in the house!
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